07/07/03 Amber became an Organ Donor.
As a family, we made a unanimous decision to donate Amber's
organs once she was officially pronounced brain-dead. Since
Amber had a rare blood type (AB+), we were told that the
odds of finding a suitable recipient were somewhat reduced, but
LifeLink was quick to swing into action by coordinating tests
and searching the national registry.
07/25/03 Letter From LifeLink Regarding Organ Donations.
"As were your wishes, Amber was an organ and tissue donor. We
were able to recover the kidneys and heart for valves. Your
daughter's right kidney was received by a 72-year-old male from
New Jersey. This gentleman was suffering from hypertension,
which resulted in kidney damage. He was listed in May 2001 for a
transplant. He is married and works as a professor. We wish him
well with his recovery.
The left kidney was transplanted into a 41-year-old female, also
from New Jersey. The young lady is married and works as an
office manager. She enjoys traveling and going to the movies.
After speaking with her transplant coordinator, I understand
that the kidney is functioning good and her recovery is going
Unfortunately, the liver and lungs could not be recovered
because of the difficulties in matching the organ to a waiting
recipient. However, this in no way diminishes the importance of
your gift and the effort you and your family have made on
As you wished, Amber was also a tissue donor. We were able to
recover the heart for valves. Although the heart itself was not
able to be transplanted, the pulmonary and aortic valves from
the heart were recovered. Upon completion of processing, Amber's
heart valves will be available for transplantation into adults
as well as children and can at times mean the difference between
life and death. These valves can be used to correct complex
congenital defects, for which mechanical valves cannot be used,
as well as to repair areas of heart vessels, which are
01/12/04 Letter from the recipient of Amber's left kidney.
Jamie, Chip, and Jacob,
Thank you so much for your letter. It was very kind of you to
share some of your memories of your daughter. Receiving the
transplant was an incredible thing, but more incredible was the
generosity and kindness to give it. You must be very special
people to give such a wonderful gift at such a sad time.
I have been on dialysis for the last three years and, prior to
that, have had kidney problems for the last 20 years. Because of
the kidney you donated I no longer need dialysis and can enjoy
life again. You have not only helped me but you have also helped
my family, friends, and coworkers. Everyone is so happy for me.
My husband and I love to travel and being on dialysis made it
very difficult. There are not words to describe how you have
changed my life.
I am so sorry you lost your daughter, but I hope you can find
some joy knowing that what you did is amazing. We are so
grateful for your thoughtfulness and generosity.
02/10/04 Letter from the recipient of Amber's right kidney.
My dear friends:
I want to express, with all my heart, my deepest sympathy and
loving support on the passing of your child. I would like to
think that these simple heartfelt words will bring healing,
comfort and, above all, a sense of continuity and renewal to all
who mourn her.
The kidney I received from your little daughter saved my life. I
had been on dialysis for one year and my health was
deteriorating. For the gift of life, through your child, I thank
you with a heart so full of gratitude that I am having
difficulty finding the right words. This was, really, the reason
of this very belated letter.
I would like to tell you that I am a professor in the Department
of Foreign Languages at one of New Jersey's State Universities
where I have taught for some thirty five years, and found each
day a blessing in and of itself. I am married, and my wife joins
me in expressing, when there are really no words, how thankful
she is we can continue our life together.
In my private life, anything written in a book speaks to me.
Each time I pick up a book, I will remember your daughter. I
also write poetry, and the ability to continue to spin dreams
through words is one of her gifts to me - please always remember
One day, if ever you feel it is possible, my wife and I would
like to meet you in person. I know this is your decision.
With kindest personal regards, I remain forever grateful.
07/03/04 Guestbook entry posted by Judy Rogero.
Little Amber Lynn Cash was my niece. Her daddy is my Nephew,
his “Nana” is my sister. I was with them and Jamie at the
hospital during the last moments while they tested Amber for any
signs of "life" (brain wave activity).
I am an EMT. I have dealt with the Organ Donation process
from every angle now. In my work on an ambulance I have
transported Doctors and surgical teams to locations where they
performed Organ Harvesting. I have transported organs, in
Emergency mode, to awaiting jets bound for the recipient’s
surgeries. But until July 7th, 2003 I hadn’t experienced the
Organ Donor process from the Donor Family’s perspective.
Most people never think of what actually goes on in those
horrible, gut wrenching moments leading up to actually signing
the papers allowing someone else a chance at life; a chance when
your own family has no more chances.
People don’t want to think about that. It is so very true
that “Greater love hath no man, than he lay down his life for a
friend”. Organ Donation is just that. Whether it be the love of
their family member who is dying, or somehow sending “love” to a
person “somewhere”, that you don’t even know, it is still the
single most selfless thing that I have ever witnessed.
It just doesn’t occur to most of us that, in that most horrid
of scenes, that a Mom, Dad, and FAMILY have to literally say
good-bye to a child who, for the world, still LOOKS alive; who
tear themselves away from a baby that they know they’ll see next
in her casket. But that is the reality. And I was never more
proud of our (Amber’s) family than in the moment that I
witnessed that very thing.
I felt I needed to share my part of our experience here. We
now know that Amber has saved two people with the gift of Organ
Donation. What a wonderful thing to know – that someone is alive
now because of her!
I, for one, also know of the great love that Chip, Jamie,
Margie and little Jacob all had for Amber. She was always
thought of FIRST in their family, even though Jacob was half her
age. And Jacob still remembers and misses his "big" sister. He
somehow just seemed to know and expect that Amber had those
special needs, and never seemed jealous, as one might expect of
one so young.
I was given this little poem by a friend, and immediately
thought of “Baby Amber” as we all called her. We all await the
time when we will see her again…
Don’t grieve for me, for now I’m
I’m following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard Him call.
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day,
to laugh, to love, or even to play.
Things left undone must stay that way.
I found His place at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void,
then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
Ah yes, these things, I too, will miss.
Do not be burdened with times of
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow!
My life’s been good, I savored much.
Good friends, good times, a loved one’s touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too
don’t lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me…
God wanted me now. He set me free!
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